SPECIAL NOTE: As part of my commitment to amplify the voices and wisdom of black women this week, I’m re-releasing key episodes on the podcast feed, including this one, that I think can light our way in our commitment toward anti-racism and racial justice. You can also find these episodes, and others that shine a light on social justice issues from myself and other podcasters, at www.womenpodcastersinsolidarity.com
**Nicole Lee of Inclusive Life and I are interested in co-facilitating four weekly sessions in the month of June for the Mother’s Quest Community members of all ethnicities, committed to anti-racism and solidarity during these times. We want to be in conversation and community as we all show up in our motherhood and activism. Cost would be $99 per person with Mother’s Quest as a pass-through. All funds would support Nicole’s time. If this is a barrier, please reach out about a sliding scale or scholarship. Space is limited. Email firstname.lastname@example.org ASAP with your interest in participating.
ALSO: I hope you’ll consider joining me at Nicole Lee’s upcoming
Inclusive Life Virtual Accelerator: Awakening Political and Spiritual Power for Aligned Action
Hello and welcome to Episode #27 of the Mother’s Quest Podcast and the first of several I’ll be sharing for an initiative I’ve launched called Women Podcasters in Solidarity.
The Initiative is a commitment I’ve made, alongside some other amazing women podcasters, to raise awareness and dollars to uncover and dismantle the ways racism, both conscious and unconscious, are impacting our society. I planned the Initiative after viewing the haunting video of Philando Castile’s death and of his girlfriend Diamond Reynolds and her young daughter in the back of the cop car in its aftermath. But, the events of Charlottesville since then have brought another level of urgency to this effort.
I’m so grateful that I found Nicole Lee, an incredible African American woman and mother, as our first guest on this topic, to light the way for how we as mothers, and especially those of us who are white women like myself, can take steps to make a difference, beginning with our own children and our own communities.
Nicole is a strategist, executive coach and public policy advocate through her diversity and inclusion consulting firm, Lee Bayard Group, LLC. And she’s a practicing human rights attorney through the Black Movement Law Project she co-founded, which provides legal and strategy assistance to Black Lives Matter protestors and organizations. Social justice and human rights have been part of her character since she was a child where she got her pioneering spirit especially from her own mother, one of the first black women to be ordained in her Christian denomination.
Nicole brings her experience as a mother and advocate to training parents in how to have courageous conversations with our children about diversity, inclusion and equity. I had the opportunity to learn from Nicole on a recent webinar on the subject, an overview for a more detailed class launching in September, that was also attended by Mallory Schlabach who offers this week’s dedication.
Nicole and I start the episode with shared agreements and intentions for courageous conversation, committing to one another to come to the podcast recording with an open heart, a commitment to move through discomfort and risk imperfection. I vowed not to edit anything out and we both named a shared desire to plant seeds in mothers to raise awareness for themselves and their children.
We explored how we can open channels of communication with our children, holding a “growth mindset” for them in relation to diversity, allowing them to make mistakes as they share what’s on their minds and not “shushing” them when they do. Nicole also shared the importance of expressing our values to our children in ways that they understand.
When I asked her where we could invest in change, she challenged us to focus on our own communities and to identify some hard conversations we’ve been putting off. She emphasized the importance of introspective work to realize what’s in our way, determine what we need to be “ready” and then go get ready and have them.
As it has been for me, I hope this podcast episode, and the links and resources in the show notes, will be part of what you need to get ready to have the brave conversations with your own children and your own communities. As Nicole says at the end of our conversation, “we’ve got this.” We are not being asked to do anything that is not within our grasp. It’s not easy but we can get it done.
This Week’s Challenge:
Our challenge this week is to go back and process our own patterns and thinking about race, diversity and inclusion, to identify what courageous conversations we’ve been putting off, to get what we need to be ready, and then go have them.
Topics discussed in this episode:
How having an open heart and articulating intentions create meaningful opportunity for brave conversations about our differences
Nicole’s reflection on why many black women may not want to talk with white women about racism and how to seek out spaces, and resources, to explore these issues if you’re white and have genuine intention to learn
Nicole’s childhood and how she was driven at an early age to fight for social good
An exploration of the E.P.I.C Guideposts in relation to the topic of diversity and inclusion
The role mothers have in planting awareness and knowledge in their children that will help transform our society
The importance of cultivating real friendships across differences and how color blindness and an unwillingness to have tough conversations can block authentic connection
The importance of having a growth mindset in the context of race and not to “shush” our children when they share what’s really on their minds
Expressing our values in a way our children will understand
Ideas for investing and supporting the Movement for Black Lives and Nicole’s opinion that getting involved locally in advocacy on police relations, and having the hard conversations, in our own communities, are the most important steps we can take.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Mother on a Quest: Nicole Lee
Growth Mindset in Diversity
Mother’s Quest Ep 07: Living Out Loud with Jenjii Hysten
Explaining Charlottesville to my 7-year-old by Nicole Lee
Lee Bayard Group, LLC – Nicole’s diversity and inclusion consulting firm.
UPDATE: Nicole more recently launched what she refers to as “a compass towards transforming our diverse societies to be more inclusive, equitable and justice by how we stand up in our homes and in our vocations and live inclusive lives through authenticity, awareness, and action” called Inclusive Life
Black Movement Law Project – Legal and strategy assistance to Black Lives Matter protestors and organizations where Nicole is a co-founder
Women Podcasters in Solidarity
I’m even more committed to a quest I’ve been on to understand the roots of racism and bigotry, how it still shows up today, and how I can become a better ally and advocate to fight against it.
I’m raising awareness for myself, and inviting you to do the same, through this special podcast episode. I’m also pledging to donate to an organization supporting the Movement for Black Lives and to invite you to donate too leading up to Giving Tuesday in November. More on this to come soon.
If you are a women podcaster yourself, I’d love for you to make a similar pledge to use the power of your platform for this cause. You can learn more and join the initiative by signing up at mothersquest.com/solidarity.
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