Karly Nimmo is a born communicator. She’s an ex-radio jock, producer & copywriter, current in-demand Voice Over Artist and has run her successful Voice Over Agency (Killer Kopy) for over a decade. There’s a pretty slim chance you haven’t heard her voice. She’s worked with everyone from Telstra, BHP, eBay, Panasonic, Qantas to Coles-Myer and ANZ. Karly’s also an avid and successful podcaster, with her number one iTunes hit, Karlosophies – Stories Behind Success. She’s the creator of Radcasters Podcasting S’cool – where she teaches entrepreneurs how to podcast like a pro.
Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…
I had a relatively normal 80s childhood in a relatively blue collar neighbourhood, in the outskirts of Melbourne, Australia. Mum stayed at home raising the kids, while Dad worked. And he worked a lot. Mum held the traditional role in the home. Cooked, ran around the countryside taking us to dancing, football, netball, singing, etc, etc, etc. She was definitely the primary care giver. And in addition to that, she was dedicated to my father. If he was around, he would be served lunch first… and even today, every day you’ll hear my Dad say ‘Where’s my cuppa, Rhon?’
I struggled with this. I rebelled against it. That rebellion led me to my amazing husband, Micko. Together we are a parenting and life team… but sometimes, I find myself falling into the role of my father. Expecting to be waited on. This is a current cause of friction within myself.
We are parents to an amazing, bright, hilarious 3 and a bit year old girl, Mabel.
I feel truly blessed to have been given the gift of mothering a girl. And at times, while it’s challenging, it’s honestly the best decision I never made (she was a big surprise – a fabulous one).
What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?
There’s been so many, that I’m writing a book. The sparks have mostly been things most people don’t like to talk about… depression, anxiety, failure.
In 2009 I moved to an isolated coastal town on the East Coast of Australia. A place where I knew no-one, except my husband. And, I fell into a depression. Before that I’d done my very best to avoid being alone, and here, I found myself working from home, no kids (so no school drop off, etc), and anxiety and depression that prevented me from making new friends. That was really my rebirth. I was forced (or, rather chose) to really look at my life, who I was and who I wanted to be. It lead me on a crazy journey of self discovery, with many adventures along the way ( including a $100k failed business), which I guess I’m still very much on today.
What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?
I’ve struggled with this purpose and passion concept. I mean, I get it. We are here for a purpose. Follow your passion. But for me, throughout my journey with depression, that’s a very easy thing to say, and very hard to live. At times I didn’t know who I was, let alone what I was passionate about. And that made me feel even more shit about myself. What kind of person doesn’t know what they are passionate about? There must be something wrong with me!
Even now, I’m still figuring it all out. I feel much more clear and on purpose these days. But it’s a day by day thing, you know? Some days I feel completely disconnected from passion and purpose and find myself questioning everything… and other days I feel on purpose that it’s like it is just pulsing through me from somewhere magical.
If we circle back to the first question, about my Mum… I guess this is how she shaped me. Not by what she did, but by what she perhaps didn’t do. She didn’t really question the status quo. She was a good wife. A great mother. But she never really pushed the envelop, or questioned things. And maybe that’s what turned me into the skeptic, or the rebel, I can often be.
See, when I see something we ‘should’ be doing, or everyone jumping in on some kind of a bandwagon, everything in me wants to question that. Why? Why do I need a purpose anyway? What does that even mean?
Maybe that is, weirdly, my purpose. In fact, it is a big part of it.
I feel like I’m here to shine a light on the stuff that lies hidden in the shadows. The things people feel uncomfortable talking about. Fear. Failure. Depression. Anxiety. I’m a big believer that shame breeds in the darkness… and that when we shine a light on it, we can see it for what it really is. Just stories. Beliefs. Not necessarily the truth, or our truth. Most of us go through life feeling like we are alone in our struggle. No one wants to be the outcast. So we hide parts of ourselves away, for fear of rejection or judgement, that are actually perfectly normal. We shy away from things that can be potentially labelled ‘bad’ or ‘weird’ so we can belong. So that we are not isolated from the pack. But instead, it isolates us from ourselves. And that isolation serves no one.
Long way round to it, but if I really get deep into the question, my purpose is to be that light for people. To share, even when it makes us uncomfortable. To always speak my truth.
What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?
I’m on an inspiration sabbatical right now. Giving myself the space to find the inspiration within.
What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?
This too shall pass… is definitely the one I come back to the most. Good and bad, both pass.
In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?
What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?
I’d love to invite you to consider that perhaps you have all you need… perhaps you are exactly where you need to be…. and perhaps, just perhaps, you are already who you want to be.
I feel like we are so often looking to be somewhere (anywhere) else, or someone (anyone) else, other than where we are, or who we are, right now. And where we are is perfect. Who we are is perfect. Nothing really needs to change. If you want change, go about creating it, but know that it doesn’t really matter.
We can be so attached to things needing to go a certain way, that we create a lot of stress and tension in ourselves and our lives. And we can really find ourselves sweating the small stuff, but let’s be really real, not much of the big stuff even matters. Love matters. Self first. And we can’t truly love ourselves, until we fully accept ourselves. All aspects. Positive and negative is just an energetic charge… it’s our perception of them that makes us feel ‘good’ or ‘bad’. What is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ anyway?
So right now, I want you to take a moment to think about your last moments in life. What are the things that will truly matter to you? Make a list. 5 things max. That’s the big stuff. That’s the ‘good’ stuff. Stick it up somewhere visible and when you find yourself becoming overwhelmed with the complexity of day to day life, come back to it. Affirm to yourself that you are where you need to be. What is for you, won’t go pass you.
I do also have a free 7 day course to get you asking yourself some of the big questions. If you’d like to go exploring with me as your guide, go to karlynimmo.com/7days
How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?
Julie and I worked together through my Radcasters business to bring the Mothers Quest Podcast to life.
What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?
My favorite episode was definitely Ep 7 with Jenjii Hysten. Julie really made herself vulnerable and asked some big questions of herself, and society as a whole, in that ep. I found it incredibly inspiring and insightful.
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