August 5, 2019
Almost two years ago now, I woke up to news of the events at the Charlottesville Rally and decided I could not be silent and do nothing. I decided I had a responsibility to use my voice and the platform I was building with the Mother’s Quest Podcast to shine a light on social justice issues. And, that if I could make that commitment, other women podcasters might too. Many of you said “yes” and those episodes recorded for the first season, on anti-racism and police brutality, are up at www.womenpodcastersinsolidarity.com.
A second season, still under way, focuses on the intersectional impact of gun violence. Tragically, there have been so many mass shootings since we made the decision to center this second season on this topic…I can’t count. And thousands of incidences of gun violence that do not receive news coverage, disproportionately impacting communities of color.
Last weekend’s events, two mass shootings within 24 hours, blasted our consciousness with the work still ahead and urgency to fight gun violence. As importantly, they call us to address the racism and toxic masculinity that has been a consistent through-line between both seasons. This season, I’m grateful for the opportunity I had to speak with Gloria Pan of MomsRising, decades long gun safety advocate Lad Everitt, Trayvon Martin’s mother Sybrina Fulton who founded the Circle of Mothers and the Trayvon Martin Foundation after the tragic loss of her son, and most recently, Will Latif Little, who after taking the life of a young man through gun violence has transformed his life and answered the call to stop others from making the same mistake.
Though a few of these episodes are from a year + ago, and some of the resources and events are not current, the discussions are as relevant as ever. And, if you’re looking for deeper understanding and for some action you can take, I hope you’ll listen to one of these today.
Finally, if you’re a woman podcaster and you want to join Women Podcasters in Solidarity yourself, visit the website and come over to our facebook group. We’re still looking for more episodes on this topic and hope you’ll create courageous conversation of your own. We need your voice and to reach your audiences with discussions that can deepen our understanding and catalyze action.
Ep 37: Generations Rising for Gun Safety with Gloria Pan
In this episode, Gloria shares about her upbringing in an Asian-American immigrant family, the impact of her mother’s experience working in the UN during the Women’s Movement, and whether the idea of living an E.P.I.C. life is relevant for MomsRising mothers, many of whom are struggling to meet basic needs. We delve into the E.P.I.C. guideposts from the lens of gun safety advocacy, explore the ways in which we can broaden our lens to make that advocacy intersectional, and Gloria gives us specific actionable challenges to get involved and make a difference.
Ep 54: Superheroes, Fighting Patriarchy, and Courageously Defeating Gun Violence with Ladd Everitt
I was inspired by the example in Ladd of a white male leader, connected to his emotions, doing meaningful work, and looking for ways to share his privilege and influence with voices that should have more representation in the movement. Ladd and I both left the conversation feeling enriched by the opportunity to talk through complex issues. I’m excited to invite you in to listen with us and then move into action for gun safety alongside us.
Ep 55: From Grief to Advocacy and a Circle of Mothers with Trayvon Martin’s Mother Sybrina Fulton
This intimate conversation, over a year in the making, was a unique opportunity to delve into Sybrina’s own journey, how the E.P.I.C. guideposts show up in her life and in her activism, and to hear her powerful call to action to invest in mothers, by reaching out to mothers grieving in our own communities and by contributing to her “Circle of Mothers,” a labor of love that came to her in her dreams.
Ep 64: Fatherhood, Forgiveness and Redemption with Poet Will Little
Will has a profound story to tell, one that began with an upbringing in a single family parent home with his four sisters in Philadelphia, PA. Without his father or a father figure, and impacted by his environment, Will began to venture away from the ideals he was shaped by in church, dropping out of high school in the 10th grade, and becoming involved in the Philadelphia drug trade and a shooting that resulted in the death of a young man. This ultimately landed Will in prison for a 10-20 year sentence on a murder conviction at the age of 19. Ultimately, this episode is about hope and transformation…And I hope you’ll be forever changed, as I have been, by your connection to Will and his story.
Personal Manifesto definition – A declaration of your core values and beliefs, what you stand for, and how you intend to live your life. It functions both as a statement of principles and as a call to action.
The Mother’s Quest
Motherhood is a transformational journey,
not a destination.
Along the way, we discover, grow and change
alongside our children.
In the unexpected challenges of motherhood,
I found parts of myself I never knew existed.
But, also lost parts of myself.
And sidelined my dreams.
Then one day, I could no longer ignore the whispers.
I opened my eyes and saw the signs all around…
challenging me to choose myself.
To step into the fullest expression of who
I’m meant to be.
To answer the call of my own hero’s journey.
To become the author of my story.
I paused for reflection in a “spark moment” as I stood
at the threshold of a new chapter.
I thought I needed someone to open a door for me.
Then, I realized that if I didn’t first open the door…
give myself permission, and say “yes” to myself,
no one would be able to do that for me.
Today, I’m on an ongoing quest
to live my own unique version of an E.P.I.C. life…
and to inspire and champion my children to do the same.
I know that the impact I seek happens
when I lead the way by my own example.
The E.P.I.C. Guideposts are my markers.
If I focus on these,
my life will be filled with what matters most.
E: Engage mindfully with my children
P: Pursue passionate and purposeful impact,
making a difference beyond my family
I: Invest in myself and
C: Connect to a strong support network
so I am in community on my journey
And I live by a set of E.P.I.C. Values.
Deeply rooted, with all of this as my foundation,
I choose center-stage of my life.
And one day, when I’m older,
perhaps sitting on a porch with my grandchildren,
I can tell them all of my stories,
and the moments, connections and impact that mattered most.
Inspiring yet another generation
to live their E.P.I.C. lives.
E: Engagement with kindness, authenticity and generosity
P: Pause to reflect and make meaning of my life
and learn with a growth mindset
I: Inclusion, especially those marginalized,
raising my own awareness and
moving into solidarity and activism
C: Curiosity in service of not only myself
but also others, honoring boundaries and confidentiality
Want to create your own? Join us for reflective prompts, inspiring stories and the creation of YOUR #oneminutemommanifesto, a guiding light to help you live YOUR E.P.I.C. Life. Share yours on social media with the hashtag, and nominate someone else to join in, by July 8th and you’ll be entered into a give-away with some amazing prizes from Mother’s Quest members.
www.mothersquest.com/community to join the free group. Then go straight to the Mother’s Quest Manifesto “Unit” to find all the prompts.
Seven years ago, I found my first individual coaching client in Lisa Valerio, mindful mother to an autistic son.
I’ll never forget the day that I led Lisa through a future self meditation, inviting her to envision the most positive version of herself, and picture of her life, 20 years into the future.
Her connection to her future self was strong. And the vision powerful. She imagined creating a holiday resort in her husband’s native Philippines, one with a pool at the center, so her son could swim (his favorite pastime). The hotel would provide a source of ongoing income that could provide long-term security for her son and would also be opened up to become an anchor of support for individuals with disabilities in surrounding areas.
This year, Lisa and I reunited, and she told me all about what she had achieved in the years since we worked together. With tears in both our eyes, she told me stories of:
✨The beautiful resort, Punta de Gloria, she and her husband created
✨How much her son enjoys swimming in that pool in the center
✨About the families who come with their children on boats from surrounding islands to get evaluated by disability experts she brings in from the United States through Fenixia Foundation, Inc., the non-profit she since created and;
✨How Punta de Gloria has begun hiring and training adults with disabilities to work at the resort
Lisa made all of those incredible things happen by taking inspired action in her life. And she credits the investment she made in herself, through coaching with me, for planting the seeds of her vision and helping her connect to that part of herself that believed she could make it real.
Punta de Gloria Resort’s goal is to support, serve and employ those with all abilities. We are honored to be friends of those with Down Syndrome in Samal Island Philippines.
All these years later, Lisa is on the threshold of another new chapter, one she’s eager to define, and determined that she was ready to work with me again, this time in the community of other women, through my signature experience the Mother’s Quest Circle.
The Circle begins in April and I have a just a few spots still open. We start with the future self meditation and it sets the course for all that follows.
If you feel like you’re on the threshold of a new chapter, ready to envision and make real the dreams that live inside you, I encourage you to answer the call and apply for the Mother’s Quest Circle today.
Can’t wait to welcome you in if you’re ready!
A few weeks ago, in a workshop at Camp GLP, I was asked “what is your biggest scar and what’s the story behind it?”
It’s had me thinking a lot about the eight inch scar from the top of my chest to inches above my belly button, a result of open heart surgery at the age of ten.
And, because I’m a meaning maker, I’ve been looking for clues about how that experience connects to my passionate and purposeful work and life today.
I was born with an atrial septal defect, essentially a hole in my heart, but we didn’t detect it until I was ten years old. Within weeks of hearing the heart murmur, and determining the cause, I was in open heart surgery at Cedars Sinai in Los Angeles, having my hole repaired with my own tissue, sewn over just like a patch.
It was truly miraculous. I had one of the only heart diseases that is 100% curable. And able to be fixed from something I had within myself.
The Connection to Coaching
This idea…that we have what we need already inside ourselves is why I fell in love with the model of coaching, trained as a life and leadership coach, and have coaching as a core element of the Mother’s Quest community.
When you work with me as your coach, I hold that you are resourceful and whole, even if there are parts of your life that need repair or shifting. And I believe the person closest to the truth of what you seek, and to the solutions to the challenges you face, is you.
At the same time, I know that it’s very challenging, if not impossible, to tap into that wisdom and those solutions by yourself. A great coach can hold space for you to reflect, listen deeply, ask empowering questions that clarify, help you craft a plan of action, and provide accountability from a place of kindness. We can also share lessons learned from our own experience and offer powerful perspective that can shift your thinking.
When I think about my heart surgery as a metaphor for living our E.P.I.C. lives, it’s true that my own tissue was the cure I needed for my hole. But, it’s also true that it would have been absurd to expect that I could open my own chest and do the repairing myself.
That’s why I believe its a powerful investment to work with a coach like me. Why I feel in alignment when I charge money in exchange for my coaching to you. And, why I invest in coaching and mastermind circles for myself.
One morning, after reflecting on all of this, I looked in the mirror and noticed I was wearing a tank top that revealed my scar. In a flash, the lesson and meaning of my experience came to me quite clearly, along with the realization that I was literally wearing a heart. So, I snapped a photo and share it with you along with this message and invitation to invest in coaching for yourself.
Journey to Right Livelihood
Over the next few days in the Mother’s Quest Facebook Group, I’m inviting you to learn about a program starting this Thursday provided by my own coach, Lindsay Pera, called Journey to Right Livelihood, some of the reasons why I value working with Lindsay, and lessons I’ve learned from her along the way.
And we’ll explore how Lindsay’s Journey to Right Livelihood, along with some coaching bonuses I’ll offer as an affiliate, might support you. If you’re not yet a member of the Mother’s Quest Facebook Group, come on over and join us for a facebook live with Lindsay on Wednesday morning and more personal posts. Visit www.mothersquest.com/community to join.
I look forward to reflecting together on our quest for right livelihood, our answers within, and the power of coaching to help us live our E.P.I.C. lives.
If you know you’re ready to learn more about Lindsay’s program, send me an email and I’ll get you the links to get more information and sign up.
Journey to Right Livelihood
Are you, like me, on a quest for Right Livelihood? 🙋♀️
✨Do you ever tell yourself that you can’t make money doing what you love?
✨Do you sometimes feel as though you can have financial success OR you can be happy, but you can’t have both?
✨Do you believe that you must sacrifice one for the other because they are mutually exclusive?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, or begun shifting your beliefs on these but still have days of doubt… my coach, Lindsay Pera, has a fall program, “Journey to Right Livelihood” that could be for you.
Watch the replay of a conversation I had with Lindsay in the Mother’s Quest Facebook Group last week to learn more or learn more and sign up at this link https://lindsay-pera.simplero.com/purchase/65304-Journey-To-Right-Livelihood
I’m so looking forward to participating in Journey to Right Livelihood as a learner as well. And, I’m honored to be an affiliate and offer some special Mother’s Quest bonuses for any from my community who come along for the journey. We’ll explore this inquiry and move into action in our E.P.I.C. lives together.
When you sign up with Journey to Right Livelihood will get a Mother’s Quest bonus.
Interested in exploring other ways to work with me as your coach? You can sign up for a free discovery call and learn more.
>>Book a Discovery Call<<
September 15, 2017
Last year, I had the honor of being one of 40 + speakers in the first Thriving Child Summit, led by the trusted pediatrician of my children, Dr. Elisa Song. It was an amazing opportunity for me to reflect with Elisa about all the things we did to help Ryan thrive after we learned at 18 months old that he wasn’t developing typically and had some real health challenges. You can listen to that conversation here.
I’m so excited that Elisa decided to do another Thriving Child Summit this year. I’ve already registered and have blocked off time on my calendar to take in the incredible conversations Elisa has recorded with experts on a wide range of subjects to help our children reach their potential in mind, body and spirit.
You can register too here now for FREE:
The Thriving Child Summit is a free online conference made up of more than 40 1-hour video interviews with an amazing lineup of experts in holistic health and wellness that starts on Monday, September 18, 2017 and goes through Monday, September 25, 2017.
During the Thriving Child Summit, you’ll learn:
- The foundations for optimal children’s health.
- What to feed your kids (or avoid!) to nourish their bodies and brains.
- How to use natural medicines to avoid antibiotics and keep your child healthy.
- The truth about EMFs, GMOs, pesticides, heavy metals, and other toxins – and how to keep your kids healthy in our toxic world.
- How to find the root cause and heal your child’s leaky gut, anxiety/depression, ADHD, autism, PANDAS/PANS, eczema, acne, and other chronic illnesses.
- The truth about vaccine safety from two board-certified pediatricians.
- How to talk to kids about puberty, stress management and social media – so that they’ll actually listen!
- How to “trauma-proof” your child and create resilient kids for a lifetime.
- How genetics really plays a role in the future of your or your child’s health.
- How to reclaim your mama vitality.
- And more!
Register for FREE now to make sure you don’t miss a single inspiring and informative interview:
Dr. Elisa Song is one of my most trusted advisers and a key reason why Ryan is thriving today. I hope you’ll take advantage of this incredible opportunity to gain access to information that will empower you to be the best parent you can be, and learn how to help YOUR children thrive!
Hope to see you at the Thriving Child Summit September 18 – 25, 2017!
P.S. If you can’t watch all the interviews, you can own access to ALL of the expert interviews at huge pre-summit savings. You can take advantage of this amazing opportunity now through September 18 at 9:00 a.m. to purchase here: Thriving Child Summit. If you use our link, a percentage of the proceeds will also go to support Mother’s Quest.
P.S.S. If you haven’t yet listened to my episode with Dr. Song on the Mother’s Quest Podcast you can find it here. You’ll get a sense quickly why I love her so much!