Mother on a Quest: Lesley Yadon

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Lesley is a wife, mother and entrepreneur who’s passionate about integrating spirituality into her life and business. Currently Lesley specializes in coaching new moms who are struggling with worry, guilt and overwhelm. With 16 years working with women and families in the non-profit world and a Masters in Counseling, Lesley brings both education and life experience to helping mothers create a more confident, joyful motherhood. She believes that every mother already has all the wisdom she needs to mother her baby. Her advice has been featured in Thrive Global, the Modern Mommy Prepschool, Parent Co, Bustle, Fit Pregnancy, and Mamapedia. Most recently Lesley delivered a Tedx talk about her experience as a new mother and how she transformed herself through some “dark nights of the soul.”

Learn more at www.lesleyyadon.com and/or join her Facebook page fb.me/LesleyYadonCoaching.

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

My mother was the first among her siblings to earn her Masters degree. But in her heart of hearts what she most longed for was a family. She deeply desired to be a stay at home mom. So when she had her first baby, me, she did just that. She quit her job as a Speech and Language Pathologist. In the first three years of my life she created a cozy home life. She and my dad were really into outdoor activities and they introduced me to skiing, backpacking and sailing when I was just a baby. My mother had her second daughter when I was three & a half and our family began to disintegrate at that time. My parents divorced when I was about four years old. She became a single , working mom- everything opposite of what she wanted to be.

That divorce rocked my mothers world. It deeply wounded her. Throughout my growing up years my mother placed an emphasis on education. She spoke about how important it was that her daughters get an education so that no matter what happened, we would always be able to take care of ourselves. I knew, without her saying so, that she wanted us to be as independent of a mans income as we could. My mother homeschooled me first through third grade and after that helped me every single day with homework and tests. Her steadfast voice and value of education encouraged me to go to college. I earned two bachelors and a Masters! My mother has two daughters with a Masters and a son with a Bachelors. Her influence has shaped our ability to have a voice and get employed.

My mom is a woman of conviction and faith. She raised me in a Christian home, teaching me that God’s love will eventually redeem each and every one of us. While I no longer identify as Christian, her deep seated faith influenced my life and values profoundly. Without that, I would not be the loving , compassionate, spiritual woman I am today.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

My pregnancy and Arthur’s birth were definitely spark moments. His first year of life was filled with these moments: both gloriously hopeful and excrutiatingly painful. My pregnancy was a bit of a surprise and my husband and I were in a relatively rocky place in our relationship. I couldn’t imagine being a mother and felt like my life was essentially over because it had to now be superseded by a baby’s life. All around me I saw mothers completely crucifying their own lives- their desires, their hopes, their gifts- on the cross of motherhood. Maybe that’s a harsh metaphor, but that’s what it looks like to me. I thought that’s what I needed to do. But as I moved through my pregnancy, I made a CHOICE. I chose the pregnancy and motherhood. I chose to see who I would become and how I could grow through this experience. That was the first spark.

Another was taking Marie Forleo’s B-school and a third was quitting my full time job!

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

My passion is supporting new moms who are struggling with worry, overwhelm and guilt to create more peaceful and joyful lives. My purpose in the world is to become the best version of myself possible so that I can make my largest contribution toward the growth and healing of our world, beginning with mothers. The mission behind Lesley Yadon, LLC is to inspire, promote and protect mothers worldwide.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I love the podcast Soul Work for Moms and LOA Recon. I also listen to Brook Castillo for amazing mindset work and Tara Brach for mindfulness. I’m really digging into the book, Chakras, Beyond Beginners.

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

The Universe supports me. Source and I are co-creating this life.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

My vision for this year is Generosity.

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I would like to share a guide I created, “How to have a happier, stress free morning.”

How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?

I met Julie in B-school

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

I admire the breadth of women Julie interviews and I love her open-hearted honesty and generosity that shines through in everything she does . My favorite episode is her interview with Ryan! It was delightful and silly and touching all at once.

 


 

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Mother on a Quest: Kari Azuma

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Join us live for a guided meditation and Q&A on awareness, mindfulness, and meditation with this week’s featured Mother on a Quest, Kari Azuma! Click here to join the community and get the invite to this event.

Kari Azuma is committed to leaving a legacy of empowered mothers to lead the next 7 generations. She’s a certified coach in Linguistic and Somatic Distinctions and has studied under luminaries such as Scott Coady, Brian Whetten, Julio Olilla and others. Since 2010, has been blessed to coach board members of influential companies, poets, entrepreneurs, coaches, and leaders in the health and wellness sectors, and for that, she is forever grateful.

It wasn’t until 2015 that her true mission was illuminated when she gave birth to her first born, Sitka. After suffering a full year from Post-partum depression and anxiety, and experiencing a full-blown identity crisis for a year, it became clear to her that cultural expectations of motherhood were unrealistic. And, that there was no real leadership model for mothers to step into the next level of leading their own lives while suddenly being responsible for another.

Since then, she’s dedicated her life’s work to coaching mothers on leadership development and overcoming stress and overwhelm through social media, private sessions and her elite group coaching model, Empowered Mothers Alliance, and her Private Facebook Community, Conscious Mothers Coalition. She also coaches side-by-side with author, speaker, and coach Preston Smiles in his popular program, Stretch 22, and will be supporting the Bridge Experience with Preston and Alexi Panos this summer.

Join Kari’s mission for empowered mothers EVERYWHERE:
Insta: @kariazuma 
FB: Kari Azuma 
FB Group: Conscious Mothers Coalition (mothers only)

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

My childhood was generally full of love, incredibly supportive and I hold a lot of warm happiness in my heart around it. I was blessed with parents who were pretty conscious and wanted to up the ‘parenting game’ based on what they did not receive in their own childhood, and I am so grateful to them for changing cycles with how they raised me and my sister.

My mother and I have a pretty unique interplay with each other. We are INCREDIBLY similar and both very empathic, so I always had this propensity to ‘care’ for my mom. I feel like from a young age I could see her wounds and of course the empathic side of me always wanted to ‘save’ her from them. On the other hand she was also a POWERHOUSE business woman, but she was driven mostly by scarcity, which had a bit of a cost on our relationship because she wasn’t always able to be incredibly present for me and sister because work usually landed as her top priority.

I had some resentment around that growing up, and, now that I am a mother, I so get where she was coming from. Some of the things my mom accomplished by the age of 30 were pretty amazing when it came to being a business owner. She ran her own consulting operation and made 6-figures (which I didn’t even know until I was in my 20’s because she was always so worried about money, I assumed she made much less). At that time, 6 figures was a pretty big deal, as was being a female business consultant in the male-run insurance world. She was very strong and inspiring.

Her incredible devotion to spirit also taught me so much about surrender, and that there are forces bigger than us that are willing to step in and take the reigns when being human feel like ‘a little too much. Her mama bear spirit is also VERY strong. And the fierce love I have for my son is definitely a reflection of her commitment to us and being the best mom she possibly could be. She always did her best, I saw that. She also taught me so much about being of service to others, especially those who don’t have the tools to get out of a difficult place.

I really honor my mom and see so much of myself in her. It’s fun these days, because now I coach HER on business and get to model what living in abundance looks like and I see that my path now inspires her, it’s incredibly humbling.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

The biggest turning point in my life was when I did a Vision Quest in 2009. It’s a Native American Rites of Passage ritual where you fast for 3 days and 3 nights on a mountain, in solitude, and explore a vision for your life and how to bring that back to your people. That was the first time I had a fully ’embodied’ experience, something I wouldn’t know about until I entered the somatic coaching world. I entered into a deep conversation with myself without the everyday distractions of relationships, food, media, devices, time, and all the other things that get in the way of hearing myself. It was just me, nature and water. It was intense, and intensely beautiful and it forever changed, not only how I saw myself, but how I treated the most Epic mother of all – mother earth.

Everything came alive and that included me – I came alive and saw myself through everything that happened in those three days. The two biggest things I danced with were my inner wisdom and my spiritual life, and my vision was to live in my authentic truth and bring that same gift to others. From there my purpose and life path continued to unfold.

The next moment was the birth of my son. It was a HUGE lesson that I called in around what can happen when I attach to a certain outcome and how much I judge myself when I can’t ‘perform’ in the way I want to. When I got pregnant and had my baby, I had already been coaching for about 5 years in somatic and linguistic leadership development, but it wasn’t until I went through a traumatic birth, postpartum depression and anxiety and a total identity breakdown that I had the call to who I am actually supposed to serve. I realized that there is sparse leadership training for moms outside the context of parenting. During that dark time, I made a promise that no mother would ever have to go through something like this without the resources she needs to be a leader of her life, while holding the role of motherhood in a beautiful way. That changed the entire course of my life, work, and purpose and for that I will always be grateful for that crazy year.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

Empowering mothers to be expressed in their gifts and be the leaders they were born to be, while letting the role of motherhood be a reflection of their power (vs. something that holds them back.). My vision is leaving a legacy of empowered mothers to lead the next 7 generations. I truly believe that by coaching mothers to fulfill their missions, I am supporting the shift of bringing a more feminine/ village/ collaborative environment into the workforce, and the world at large. This is not a ‘job’ for me, I am on a MISSION.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I have been reading the book “Bringing up Bebe” by Pamela Druckerman. It is incredibly inspiring to read because it’s a reflection of how hard we are on ourselves as American Women to respond to our child’s every whim, and compares it to French society who tend to raise children in accordance to the parent’s keeping a balanced life. I recommend it to ANYONE who is expecting a child.

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

“I am grateful for the wealth and abundance in my life.” This is the one I use a lot right now because being totally aligned with my path has been bringing in a lot of incredible opportunities, and I have stories around needing to ‘deflect’ the abundance because of the belief that somehow it will make me ‘greedy’ or ‘bad.’ I am so not committed to that story anymore. I teach mothers that to give, you have to have your cups FULL and overflowing, and so I am walking my talk there a LOT more now. Gratitude helps me receive, while also appreciating what is here now.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Pace (slowing down to speed up and provide the most of myself)

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I would say the number one lesson I have learned in my motherhood journey is that I’m usually the main person holding myself back- not motherhood, and it usually shows up in self-judgement. Judgement in my choices, my pace, my capacity, my success. The best way that I choose to be with that (because I believe it never will ‘go away’), is to surrender to being a learner and to name my pace, and to truly honor myself for doing my best. Through postpartum depression, one of the biggest gifts that came to me in that time was to slow down and make a HUGE celebration out of the small wins.

I am on this journey to learn. It’s why I originally became a coach, because It challenges me to stay in the beginner seat over and over again and to sit and be with the miraculous person is in front of me. To hold that space, I must always surrender to slowing down, celebrating the small miracles, and through that- create an EPIC life. And it always starts with me. <3

How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?

Knowing the fabulous Julie Neale and supporting her vision

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

The podcast with Jenjii was so beautiful. I really appreciated her deep wisdom, particularly about who SHE is in the scope of her roles. I also really appreciate the MQ Facebook community, I can feel the heart and the sweetness of who shows up and, of course, the commitment Julie has to the EPIC lives of the mothers.

Join us live for a guided meditation and Q&A on awareness, mindfulness, and meditation with this week’s featured Mother on a Quest, Kari Azuma! Click here to join the community and get the invite to this event.

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Mother on a Quest: Chandra Brooks

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Chandra Brooks, also known as The SocialPrenuer, is a wife and mother of four, born and raised in San Jose, CA. Passionate about community, civil rights, social justice, improving voter outcomes, and civic engagement within communities of color, she empowers women to live to their fullest potential.

Chandra is the former Vice President of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP), Executive Director of Building Peaceful Families, Co-Founder of Women Get it Done Silicon Valley and graduate of Emerge California, a political training program for Democratic Women. She is also Vice Chair of Santa Clara County’s Commission on the Status of Women and Girls.

In 2016, Chandra Brooks launched The SocialPrenuer, an online coaching business, as a Leadership Specialist coaching women in Community and Political Influence, How to Activate their Activism and How to Rise to the Top. Within this, Chandra also launched the Future is Female Podcast that highlights Women in Activism, Business, and Politics.

Chandra was named one of the Most Influential Women in Silicon Valley from the Silicon Valley Business Journal, Women of the Year in Advocacy from 100 Black Women of Silicon Valley, received The Latina with Vision Award from New York Life and in 2017, The Leadership Award from The League of United Latin American Citizens.

You can learn more at her website www.social-prenuer.com and Facebook Page at The SocialPrenuer.

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

I had a great childhood. Growing up, I thought we were middle class but later found out we were poor. Goes to show how my parents created an environment where we were rich in love. Instead of focusing on what we didn’t have, we focused on what we did have and that was love and family.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

I was a teen mom. When I had to tell my family I was pregnant, my uncle told me “Your life is over, you might as well prepare to be on welfare.” I was determined to prove him wrong. In 2015, I was inducted into The East Side High School District Hall of Fame, the same district that counted me out over 20 years ago.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

My passion is to Ignite that Socially Conscious Human Inside and my purpose is to do this by spreading the message throughout the world.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

48 Laws of Power. I also lead a private group called Fearlessly Ambitious Women and belong to two strong women groups that inspire me.

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

There are no gatekeepers to your journey.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Clarity

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I’d like to challenge them to find what they are most passionate about and do very well…mesh those together and find a way to make money doing it.

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

Just learned about the podcast.

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Mother on a Quest: Amy Landers

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Amy is a mom, nature nerd, writer, and educator. She and her husband, Colby, founded GardensThatMatter.com because they believe many of the world’s problems can be solved in our gardens and backyards. With her husband and three young sons, she shares tutorials, tips, and lessons learned from successes (and messes) in her own garden. Amy loves to help other families grow beautiful, bountiful gardens together.

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

I grew up in the mountains of Western North Carolina as the oldest of three kids. My mom and dad were both teachers, so we spent summers playing and exploring together. Mom taught science and always pointed out the names of trees and flowers as we explored the woods around our house. She was very involved in the community as a volunteer and a leader–she still is today! She and Dad both inspired me to be generous with my time and talents, knowing that I’m creating a stronger community for our kids.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

Life has been full of little delightful moments that signaled the path ahead, but I’ll tell you about the recent one that shaped our path in a very real way. I worked at a zoo, aquarium, and botanic garden as the marketing manager. I loved my job, sharing awesome stories and images about animals, plants, and conservation….walking the gardens during my lunch break…and working with amazing professionals who were literally saving endangered species (and caring for lots of other species, too!). But that changed when I found out the department was consolidating all the marketing roles to work from City Hall. I remember being angry and upset. Looking back, I think I was heartbroken.

It was time for a change, and with two young sons, I longed to move closer to family. I also missed the mountains and forests of North Carolina where I’d grown up. My husband, Colby, was up for the change. So with help from Mom and Dad and lots of friends, we made the cross-country move. Since we were starting fresh, we decided to start our own business. I could combine my love of nature and gardening with my experience in marketing and communication. Thus, Gardens That Matter was born!

Colby and I are both still working as freelancers while we build the business. (He’s a designer and craftsman; I create website and marketing materials for eco-entreprenuers). Gardens That Matter is growing steadily, we’re getting lots of families excited about gardening, and it’s exciting to think about what’s more and more possible each day.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

My passion is to help families connect with each other and connect with nature in their own backyards and neighborhoods!

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I’ve been listening to Essentialism (third time through!) and The One Thing. My focus lately has been on creating more simplicity…figuring out what’s trivial and letting it go, so I can focus on the vital!

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

This may sound a little funny, but I always use an affirmation as my password phrase. I pick letters, numbers or symbols to represent each word, and then I say the phrase mentally whenever I login to my password manager. So I’m saying it several times a day! A recent one that I loved was based on a poem from Rebecca Parker – the phrase was “What will you do with your gifts? Choose to bless the world!” It’s a good reminder that I have gifts (we all do!) and the choice to share them. (Full poem here: http://www.uucava.org/page/choose-to-bless-the-world-by)

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Calm (I realize as a mom of three boys now that “calm” isn’t actually possible…but I choose the word because it feels like what I want – clarity and contentedness amid the chaos. 🙂

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I would challenge and encourage moms to include nature in the times they are engaging with their kids. Going outside to dig or plant or just explore is a wonderful way to unplug and get present.

Since gardening can feel intimidating at first, I often talk about how gardens are safe places to practice trying and failing and trying again. Experimenting and learning are integral parts of the process, so gardening can be a great way to teach your kids (and self!) that kind of resilience. You can also access a free workshop on how to create a garden bustling with butterflies, bees and hummingbirds at https://www.gardensthatmatter.com/workshop.

How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?

Julie and I are connected on Facebook. Not sure how we originally connected, but I’ve enjoyed watching (and listening) as MQ has grown.

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

As you might guess, my favorite episode was Cultivating a Healthy Family with Michelle Ratcliffe–she’s doing inspiring work! In general, I love Julie’s focus on positive, inspiring stories and genuine interest in and connection with the people she interviews.

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Mother on a Quest: Erin Kendall

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Erin Kendall is an American Council on Exercise Certified Personal Trainer with 2 little toddlers at home. While juggling a household, two kids, three pets and maintaining a little sense of self she strives to bring a ray of hope and sunshine to other busy moms through Fit Mom Go!

Fitness for Moms is more than a few minutes of “me time.” It’s a lifestyle that we pass onto our children and radiate in everything we do. Erin has been a personal trainer since 2009 and works with clients in person, online and maintains a community of other Fit Moms through a workout program!

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

My family grew up in the suburbs in Pennsylvania with two blue collar parents that worked three jobs between the two of them. It was a really classic, simple upbringing that one would expect from a small town. While we didn’t have any extras in life my Mom was always encouraging and did her best to provide opportunities to learn and grow in many ways.

It wasn’t until my parents divorced that a whole new level of courage rose up in my Mom. She became a more fierce, unstoppable, confident woman.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

Going back to that small town, very simple upbringing I had never been familiar with what an entrepreneur even was. I had little insight as to what I would do after High School so I up and moved across the country to be with my sister, and coincidentally my boyfriend, who ended up in the same city.

I was a very motivated hotelier because I had worked in hotels my entire high school career. The potential was there and I wanted to climb the ladder as quickly and confidently as possible. I landed a dream job when I was 21 managing group sales for a Luxury Hotel.

When the economy crashed in 2008 I knew the cut throat industry was no longer for me. Fitness had been a budding passion of mine for a couple of years and suddenly I realized that’s what I needed to do with my life. I didn’t know how, but that confidence that I saw in my Mom during times of transition must’ve played a part.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

I’m passionate about so many things, but mostly living a healthy lifestyle that provides a high quality of life in return. My purpose on this planet is to raise my kids. I want to revel in all things Mom. I knew parenting wasn’t going to be a cake walk, but nothing was going to stop me from being a mother. Not even three miscarriages.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I’m so happy to be knee deep in podcasts. I listen while I take the kids to and from preschool. Mothers QuestThe Mom Inspired ShowBoss Mom and Being Boss. I’m slowly but surely reading “How to Talk so your Kids will Listen and Listen so your kids will Talk.”

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

The message that I’m constantly reminding myself of is that the choices in this life have to result in something worthy and enjoyable. Otherwise, the cost outweighs the benefit.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Joy

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

My love of fitness is serving Moms right now. I know how hard it can be. That’s why I developed a program that takes the least amount of time while delivering the most important results: Mood, Energy and Quality of Life! This is a Free 7 Day Fit Mom Kick Starter.

How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?

Through the Boss Mom Community

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

Podcasts and Mother’s Quest have opened my eyes that I’m truly not alone in this imperfectly wonderful Mothering Journey. The ups and downs are normal while we are still trying to truly appreciate and hone in on our core values that we’d like to pass on to our children.

I really was moved by the episode #18, YOLO. The open conversation with a teen and his Mom was like nothing I had ever experienced. I hope and dream to have mere moments of this candidness with my children.

 

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Mother on a Quest: Karly Nimmo

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Karly Nimmo is a born communicator. She’s an ex-radio jock, producer & copywriter, current in-demand Voice Over Artist and has run her successful Voice Over Agency (Killer Kopy) for over a decade. There’s a pretty slim chance you haven’t heard her voice. She’s worked with everyone from Telstra, BHP, eBay, Panasonic, Qantas to Coles-Myer and ANZ. Karly’s also an avid and successful podcaster, with her number one iTunes hit, Karlosophies – Stories Behind Success. She’s the creator of Radcasters Podcasting S’cool – where she teaches entrepreneurs how to podcast like a pro.

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

I had a relatively normal 80s childhood in a relatively blue collar neighbourhood, in the outskirts of Melbourne, Australia. Mum stayed at home raising the kids, while Dad worked. And he worked a lot. Mum held the traditional role in the home. Cooked, ran around the countryside taking us to dancing, football, netball, singing, etc, etc, etc. She was definitely the primary care giver. And in addition to that, she was dedicated to my father. If he was around, he would be served lunch first… and even today, every day you’ll hear my Dad say ‘Where’s my cuppa, Rhon?’

I struggled with this. I rebelled against it. That rebellion led me to my amazing husband, Micko. Together we are a parenting and life team… but sometimes, I find myself falling into the role of my father. Expecting to be waited on. This is a current cause of friction within myself.

We are parents to an amazing, bright, hilarious 3 and a bit year old girl, Mabel.

I feel truly blessed to have been given the gift of mothering a girl. And at times, while it’s challenging, it’s honestly the best decision I never made (she was a big surprise – a fabulous one).

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

There’s been so many, that I’m writing a book. The sparks have mostly been things most people don’t like to talk about… depression, anxiety, failure.

In 2009 I moved to an isolated coastal town on the East Coast of Australia. A place where I knew no-one, except my husband. And, I fell into a depression. Before that I’d done my very best to avoid being alone, and here, I found myself working from home, no kids (so no school drop off, etc), and anxiety and depression that prevented me from making new friends. That was really my rebirth. I was forced (or, rather chose) to really look at my life, who I was and who I wanted to be. It lead me on a crazy journey of self discovery, with many adventures along the way ( including a $100k failed business), which I guess I’m still very much on today.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

I’ve struggled with this purpose and passion concept. I mean, I get it. We are here for a purpose. Follow your passion. But for me, throughout my journey with depression, that’s a very easy thing to say, and very hard to live. At times I didn’t know who I was, let alone what I was passionate about. And that made me feel even more shit about myself. What kind of person doesn’t know what they are passionate about? There must be something wrong with me!

Even now, I’m still figuring it all out. I feel much more clear and on purpose these days. But it’s a day by day thing, you know? Some days I feel completely disconnected from passion and purpose and find myself questioning everything… and other days I feel on purpose that it’s like it is just pulsing through me from somewhere magical.

If we circle back to the first question, about my Mum… I guess this is how she shaped me. Not by what she did, but by what she perhaps didn’t do. She didn’t really question the status quo. She was a good wife. A great mother. But she never really pushed the envelop, or questioned things. And maybe that’s what turned me into the skeptic, or the rebel, I can often be.

See, when I see something we ‘should’ be doing, or everyone jumping in on some kind of a bandwagon, everything in me wants to question that. Why? Why do I need a purpose anyway? What does that even mean?

Maybe that is, weirdly, my purpose. In fact, it is a big part of it.

I feel like I’m here to shine a light on the stuff that lies hidden in the shadows. The things people feel uncomfortable talking about. Fear. Failure. Depression. Anxiety. I’m a big believer that shame breeds in the darkness… and that when we shine a light on it, we can see it for what it really is. Just stories. Beliefs. Not necessarily the truth, or our truth. Most of us go through life feeling like we are alone in our struggle. No one wants to be the outcast. So we hide parts of ourselves away, for fear of rejection or judgement, that are actually perfectly normal. We shy away from things that can be potentially labelled ‘bad’ or ‘weird’ so we can belong. So that we are not isolated from the pack. But instead, it isolates us from ourselves. And that isolation serves no one.

Long way round to it, but if I really get deep into the question, my purpose is to be that light for people. To share, even when it makes us uncomfortable. To always speak my truth.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I’m on an inspiration sabbatical right now. Giving myself the space to find the inspiration within.

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

This too shall pass… is definitely the one I come back to the most. Good and bad, both pass.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Peace

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I’d love to invite you to consider that perhaps you have all you need… perhaps you are exactly where you need to be…. and perhaps, just perhaps, you are already who you want to be.

I feel like we are so often looking to be somewhere (anywhere) else, or someone (anyone) else, other than where we are, or who we are, right now. And where we are is perfect. Who we are is perfect. Nothing really needs to change. If you want change, go about creating it, but know that it doesn’t really matter.

We can be so attached to things needing to go a certain way, that we create a lot of stress and tension in ourselves and our lives. And we can really find ourselves sweating the small stuff, but let’s be really real, not much of the big stuff even matters. Love matters. Self first. And we can’t truly love ourselves, until we fully accept ourselves. All aspects. Positive and negative is just an energetic charge… it’s our perception of them that makes us feel ‘good’ or ‘bad’. What is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ anyway?

So right now, I want you to take a moment to think about your last moments in life. What are the things that will truly matter to you? Make a list. 5 things max. That’s the big stuff. That’s the ‘good’ stuff. Stick it up somewhere visible and when you find yourself becoming overwhelmed with the complexity of day to day life, come back to it. Affirm to yourself that you are where you need to be. What is for you, won’t go pass you.

I do also have a free 7 day course to get you asking yourself some of the big questions. If you’d like to go exploring with me as your guide, go to karlynimmo.com/7days

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How did you learn about Mother’s Quest?

Julie and I worked together through my Radcasters business to bring the Mothers Quest Podcast to life.

What have you appreciated the most about Mother’s Quest?

My favorite episode was definitely Ep 7 with Jenjii Hysten. Julie really made herself vulnerable and asked some big questions of herself, and society as a whole, in that ep. I found it incredibly inspiring and insightful.

 

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