Mother’s Quest The Podcast Finale: E.P.I.C. Guideposts – A Reflection for Mother’s Day

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I’m excited to share this special Mother’s Day episode of the Mother’s Quest Podcast!

I originally envisioned this episode as a season one finale, with highlights from every episode of season one, but it ended up taking shape differently (even better in my opinion!) and became what will be an ongoing series that we’re calling “E.P.I.C. Guideposts.”

Living an E.P.I.C. life has become a guiding framework for Mother’s Quest. So often as mothers, we invest so much of ourselves in our children and their dreams, that we let our own fade to the background.

My mission with Mother’s Quest is to become the hero of my journey and the author of my story while providing inspiration, coaching and community to help you do the same.

EPIC captures this idea of creating a life filled with the things that matter most. It’s also an acronym mnemonic for the guideposts that I believe help us live such a life while we’re raising our children.

So, for this episode, we decided to highlight moments from season one, selected from some of our listeners, that connect to each of the four guideposts. You’ll hear what was special about the moment from the voice of one of our listeners and then hear the piece itself.

E.P.I.C. Guideposts in this Mother’s Day Episode

ENGAGED – You are mindfully engaged with your children and family
Sunit Suchdev shares her reflection on my special episode with my son, Ep 18: YOLO (You Only Live Once) and other Milestone Reflections with Ryan Neale. In this episode, Ryan reflects back that in being “a little selfish” in creating Mother’s Quest I’ve given him so much more than if I only focused on my children.

PASSIONATE – You are passionate & purposeful, making a difference beyond your family
Wendy Reina called in on the powerful impact that Ep 16: Rising Up with Paola Mendoza had on her. In this clip, Paola shares how her passion as a filmmaker and activist led to her role in creating the Women’s March and how she teaches her son the responsibility of using your privilege to help others.

INVESTED – You are invested in yourself
Lena Ayala-Velasquez shares her reflection on Ep 14: Breaking the Mold and Finding your Worth with Amanda Steinberg on the importance of taking risks and how the “cost” of taking a risk may actually be lower than the cost of not investing in ourselves.

CONNECTED – You are connected to a strong support network so you are in community on the journey
Saadia Ahmed, one of our previous guests, highlighted her connection to Ep 07: Living Out Loud with Jenjii Hysten which highlights the importance of forging connections with one another based on our common humanity. I also share how this episode set in motion a series of events which were transformative for my whole family and led to an incredible E.P.I.C. life snapshot for Jenjii’s family and my own.

If you’re new to the podcast, this episode will be a great introduction to Mother’s Quest and will hopefully spark you to go and listen to the 18 episodes that are waiting for you.

And if you followed along the whole time, this episode should be a helpful reminder of some of the amazing moments and lessons.

I’d love for you to visit the website at www.mothersquest.com to explore new coaching offerings, blog posts and more. Read below for announcements about all the ways you can get and stay connected!

Looking forward to a fantastic Season Two with you beginning on June 1st. Happy Mother’s Day!

xoxo,

P.S. Please help us spread the word and reach more mothers with these conversations by pressing send on this email and/or sharing our posts on social media

Announcements

If you haven’t yet visited the website, head over to mothersquest.com to explore some of the ways you can get more connected. At the site, you can sign up for our email list (to get show notes delivered to your inbox and new weekly round-ups of “gems” I’m finding on my quest), click the link to join the Facebook group and press record to leave a voice message for me.

You can also explore the new coaching offerings, sign up for a discovery session, and download the FREE Live Your E.P.I.C. Life Planning and Reflection Sheets

Acknowledgements

Heart-felt appreciation for the women who shared their reflections on the E.P.I.C. Guidepost episodes – Sunit Suchdev, Wendy Reina,  Lena Ayala-Velasquez, and Saadia Ahmed.

A big THANK YOU to our “patrons” for helping to bring these conversations to myself and other mothers through financial and/or in-kind support:

  • Niko & Rigette Osoteo of Bear Beat Productions
  • Erik Newton
  • Claire Fry
  • Divya Silbermann
  • Rachel Winter
  • Caren and Debbie Lieberman
  • Cameron Miranda
  • Fran and David Lieberman
  • Debbie and Alan Goore
  • Jenise and Marianne of the Sustainable Living Podcast

If you’d like to make a contribution to Mother’s Quest to support Season Two of the Podcast and/or help provide coaching scholarships for mothers, follow this link to make a contribution http://mothersquest.com/be-a-supporter/

 


Mother’s Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life.

Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, engaging mindfully with their children (E), passionately and purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), investing in themselves (I), and connecting to a strong support network (C).

Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/

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Episode #5: Live your E.P.I.C. Life to Help Your Children Thrive

Mother on a Quest: Mia Sutton

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Mia Sutton is a Jane of all trades. Wife, mother, writer, avid reader, Editorial Manager for Holl & Lane Magazine, and now the host of the (upcoming) Body of Hope podcast which aims to give a voice to survivors of sexual trauma. Mia is a graduate of George Mason University and spent many years working in local, state, and federal government in the higher education, administration, and human resources fields. She lives in Virginia with her husband and 2 sons.

Tell us a little about your childhood and the impact your mother had on shaping you…

I am an only child, and I spent a lot of my childhood holed up in my room reading books and writing stories in my journal. My parents divorced when I was 3 years old and I lived primarily with my mother and step-father, though I had (and still have) a very close relationship with my father. My relationship with my mother is complicated. To say the least. But she has made a couple of impacts on my life. 1) She is a hard worker. She will be 62 years young this year and she still works as many hours as she did when I was little; maybe even more since my step-father passed away a few years ago. She has never shied away from difficult situations or from doing what needs to be done. And I admire that. 2) She was what you would call a helicopter parent, often doing and speaking for me before I had a chance to do for myself. And I personally think that affected me negatively as I grew up and found myself in situations where I needed to navigate my own path.  I’ve tried very hard with my boys to give them the freedom to be who they are without trying to micro-manage every aspect of their lives. It’s a balance, for sure.

What has been a “spark moment” or “moments” that set you on your path?

A huge spark moment for me was becoming a part of the Holl & Lane Magazine team. Sarah Hartley, who is the creator, designer, and Editor in Chief of Holl & Lane, has created this amazingly beautiful, open, honest, loving community where women can come together and share their life experiences and know that they are not alone. I am so honored to work with her and the H&L team. The trust that people have in us to share their stories completely blows me away. H&L has shared stories on miscarriage, infertility, mental health, body image, love, loss, self-care, and so much more. And being surrounded by the truth and beauty of those stories every day inspired me to share my own and to no longer be afraid or ashamed of being honest.

What is your passion and purpose (the “P” in EPIC)?

My passion and my purpose is to bring awareness and openness to the subject of sexual trauma. It is one that often makes people very uncomfortable, but I truly believe that it’s something that needs to be discussed. I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and it is something that I tried to avoid dealing with for most of my life, even though the damage it caused was tremendous. I felt ashamed and unworthy and unlovable for many years. But it wasn’t my fault. And I think that message needs to be etched into the minds and souls of every survivor. So, in creating the podcast, I hope to not only give a voice to survivors of sexual trauma, but also to share a shining message of hope – that what happened to you doesn’t define you.

What is one of your favorite things to do, related to one of the E.P.I.C. guideposts?

My favorite thing to do is related to the E in E.P.I.C. My family and I are avid movie-watchers and love nothing more than to be at home with a giant bowl of popcorn watching a funny movie together. It might not be fancy, but that time together is so precious to me. Plus, movies always offer teachable moments that give me the opportunity to bring those up with my kids.

What are you currently reading or listening to for inspiration?

I’m currently reading The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood. I’ve heard from many people that there are parallels between the book and today’s political/social climate, so I’m very interested to find out more. But generally, I read a lot of poetry. Words are everything to me – and poetry is like fine art for the soul.

What is one message or affirmation you tell yourself to ground you on your quest?

“I am stronger than I know.” Meaning that no matter what life throws at me, I can get through it. The obstacles might seem insurmountable, but instead of giving up, I remind myself that there’s always a way.

In one word, what are you seeking most right now on your Quest?

Healing.

What challenge or offering would you like to share with the Mother’s Quest Community?

I would like to encourage the Mother’s Quest Community to fully embrace authenticity. There are so many times that we put on a smile when we’re not smiling inside, or tell people that we’re fine when we’re not. And I think it’s OK to be real, it’s OK to let people know that you make mistakes or you’re struggling just like everyone else. You never know who might be out there going through the exact same thing you are and just needed you to speak up so that they could say, “me, too.”

So, I challenge the MQ Community to share 1 thing (with a friend or loved one, or on social media, or wherever) that is 100% real. No sugar-coating. Just let it all out. And then see how you feel afterwards. It always leaves me feeling lighter and often leads to some really meaningful discussions.

And then if you feel the need for more honest conversations about the trials and triumphs of life, sign up to receive a FREE mini-issue of Holl & Lane Magazine here: http://www.hollandlanemag.com/signup/

 

Do you want to share how you are living your truly E.P.I.C. life? Be featured on the weekly Mother on a Quest series by sending in your story here – http://mothersquest.com/mother-on-a-quest-application/

Is this soul-fueled invitation right for you?

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April 12, 2017

When I decided a year ago this week I was ready to live what I now call my E.P.I.C. life, and turn a long-held dream for Mother’s Quest into a reality, I had so many questions.

I purchased this “Create” journal and began capturing all my thoughts. And, one thing I wrote down I knew with certainty. I didn’t want to do it alone. I would need guides to help light my way.

A few months in, I found one of my most powerful guides in Amber Lilyestrom. A mother on a quest herself, Amber had a unique vision for supporting women like me to create their online ventures, a Soul-Fueled CEO Academy with a unique blend of business, branding, and life strategy and coaching.

In the last six months, as I laid a foundation for Mother’s Quest –filed for an LLC, created my branding and a website, grew a facebook group community, and launched and completed the first season of a podcast, the wise counsel from Amber, and the tight-knit community she built within the Academy, have guided me every step of the way.

Though I joined mid-year, I deep-dived into so much that the Academy had to offer: monthly coaching calls (which I always left with greater clarity and connection) guest expert offerings, access to Amber’s private heart-felt and honest facebook live shares, and a community where I could post my questions any time of the day and find the answers I needed.

My decision to join Amber’s Academy has been a saving grace during many uncertain moments. I’m so grateful I joined the Academy and have it as a forever home to provide guidance and support.

And, beginning next week, I will join a new cohort in completing ten soul-fueled modules that I’ve seen bring profound clarity and movement to other members of the Academy. I know I’ve only scratched the surface of all I can learn from Amber.

SOUL-FUELED MOTHER’S QUEST BONUS

As an affiliate of Amber’s program, I’m excited to invite women from the Mother’s Quest community, who could also benefit from a forever home to support their ventures, an opportunity to join the Academy and benefit from the value and support that it provides. Take a look here and see if the Academy fills your unmet needs as it did mine.

If the Academy is right for you and you decide to join through Mother’s Quest, a percentage of your fees will help Mother’s Quest continue to grow, and will also connect you to a Mother’s Quest bonus:

-One hour-long one-on-on coaching session with me to delve deeper into your E.P.I.C. life in whichever way would be most helpful to you.

-Three one hour facilitated “Mother’s Quest Reflection Circles”, via Zoom, with a group of no more than ten mothers on a quest like yourself. We’ll do one within the first few months of the Academy launch, one mid-way through and another closer to the end, to set intentions and gather learnings for connecting our experience as mothers and entrepreneurs. (note: need a minimum of six women to sign up for this part of the bonus)

There are a maximum of ten spots available for this bonus And, if you are one of the ten that this feels right for, I would be excited and honored to be alongside you on this journey.
NEXT STEPS

If you’re creating something of your own and don’t want to do it alone, take some time on Amber’s page to learn more about what she offers, post any questions in the Mother’s Quest page or group (where Amber is also a member), and/or message or email me with your thoughts. If you want the Mother’s Quest bonuses, make sure to let me know so you can sign up through the affiliate link.

I’ll also be doing a facebook live with Amber this week to talk about my experience and will post the link in these comments here.

Thank you for the opportunity to reflect on this last year, all the growth that has come, and the ways in which the Soul-Fueled CEO Academy has helped me along the way.

I join the live round of the Academy’s modules next week and I’m excited to see what new transformation is around the corner. Hope you’ll be right there with me!

xoxo,

Julie

P.S. If you haven’t yet listened to my interview with Amber on the Mother’s Quest Podcast, you can find it here and it would be a great way to learn more about her and hear her words of wisdom

How did I do that?

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I was on vacation last week! Woo hoo! ?

Such great timing to take an exhale after season one of the podcast and have some time to really connect with myself and my family.

One highlight from the trip was watching Jacob swim for the first time without his swim instructor next to him or a swim vest.

He went in without the vest to see if he could do it “just one time,” but after making it to the other side of the pool with ease, he said out loud “How did I do that?”

I love how he really witnessed and took in, with delight, his accomplishment. He then proceeded to swim that way for the next hour.

On the other side of uncertainty was a newfound confidence, joy and pride.

I realize I felt similarly when I wrote my post to you Sunday morning reflecting on the season. I scrolled through all the 18 episodes and thought “How did I do that?”

This has me curious about you. What have you accomplished recently that stopped you in your tracks to pause, acknowledge your growth and celebrate?

Or, what are you dreaming about or gearing up to do that has you feeling uncertain? And, how might I or someone in the Mother’s Quest Group help?

I would love if you took a minute to share in the comments…

Love,

Has Something From This Season Filled Your Cup?

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This weekend, I had a lazy morning in bed, reflecting back on the first season of the podcast and feeling so grateful for the opportunity…and for all of you who have made this season possible in countless ways.

What an amazing experience this has been! The conversations I’ve had have filled my cup and enriched my life more than I could have imagined. Here are a just a few “spark moments” that stand out for me:

  • My first solocast, episode #00 when I re-read the letter to myself from the workshop with Elizabeth Gilbert, giving myself permission to conquer my fears and share my voice in a new way
  • The moment in episode #7 with Jenjii Hysten when, after reflecting on my experience visiting her ministry, we connected to our common humanity as mothers that transcends race, class and religion
  • When Amanda Steinberg, author of Worth It, in episode #14, told me that sometimes the risk of NOT investing in ourselves has a higher price than the risk of making an investment. I had her repeat that back to me more than once.
  • In my latest episode #18 with my own son Ryan, when he shared his observation that by me being a “little selfish” (which he said he meant in the most positive way) I impacted him immensely by showing him the importance of pursuing a passion.

There are moments like this from EVERY episode for me, with so many incredible women who I interviewed… moments and lessons I now carry with me into the next chapter of my E.P.I.C. life.

What about you? What are the moments that stand out for you from the different episodes? Leave us a voice message or share in the comments below.

And, if you feel called, I’d love to share your voice in the season finale.

To submit something for consideration by April 6th, use the purple phone icon or your own favorite voice memo tool, and send me a message with your name, favorite moment, and its impact on you that I can edit straight into the finale episode.

I would be honored and grateful to hear your reflections!

Until then, I want to close out with the mantra inspired by the life of my friend Leslie that I’m thinking about a lot today…

 

Seize the day

Love your people

Honor your gifts

 

Love,

Ep 18: YOLO (You Only Live Once) and other Milestone Reflections with Ryan Neale

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I’m so honored and excited to bring you this Episode #18 of the Mother’s Quest Podcast with a very special guest, my own son Ryan Neale.

One of the great lessons I’ve learned is the importance of marking milestones and honoring endings so that you can thoughtfully open a new chapter.

As Ryan approaches his bar mitzvah in April, becoming a “Jewish adult” and entering his teens, we decided we would spend his thirteenth birthday together, going on a “milestone hike” ‘and then recording an episode of the podcast at a recording studio in San Francisco.

It was a magical day of reflection, revelations for both of us, and a lot of laughter. I’m honored to bring highlights of all of that to you through this episode.

You’ll hear Ryan share eloquently and honestly about his appreciation for the support that helped him conquer his developmental delays, how his own fears manifest in his life today, and how, in his next chapter, he wants to trust more and move through his fear. Because, he says, he wants to live with a YOLO (You Only Live Once) mindset.

Ryan reflects on snapshot moments from his life, about his deep love for his younger brother, his experience finding a group of friends and a school program where he could thrive, receiving the academic achievement award, and the moments he hopes he’ll be able to look back on with pride at the next milestone.

Ryan also gets a turn to ask me his own questions and give me feedback. I had an opportunity to share the biggest lesson my mother gave me, to always appreciate every stage of life you’re in when you’re in it, and acknowledge what I wish I could change about myself.  

I also heard Ryan reflect back that in being “a little selfish” in creating Mother’s Quest I’ve given him so much more than if I only focused on my children.

There’s a game we play with Erik Newton (whose studio we recorded in) as our game show host, a lot of laughter and some comical out-takes that you’ll want to stick around for at the very end.

I felt so blessed to create this experience with Ryan and to share it with you. I take with me the importance of marking these rites of passage thoughtfully with our children, what a privilege it is to be witness to the development of another human being as a mother, a reminder of how powerfully our children see and know us and help us grow, and what fun it can be to create new experiences together.

Ryan and I will never forget how we spent his thirteenth birthday together. We hope you’ll leave this episode inspired to mark a milestone in your life, with your children, and make some life-long memories of your own.

Topics discussed in this episode:

  • Our meaningful and magical milestone hike through Laurelwood Park

  • How you cannot see yourself fully through the mirror but can through your loved ones

  • Life happens fast, appreciate every aspect of your life as you’re in it because before you know it you’ll be on to the next 

  • Take life in small steps and the snapshot moments that Ryan most remembers from his 13 years

  • Ryan’s love for his brother Jacob and what Ryan said the day Jacob was born

  • The impact living my E.P.I.C. life has had on Ryan

  • How things that are scary can at the same time be beautiful and Ryan’s commitment not to let his fears stop him from living his YOLO (You Only Live Once) life

  • The pact Ryan and I made to help us with our biggest area of growth, our management of time

  • Erik’s takeaway: “Parenting is an opportunity to be vulnerable in a way that is unprecedented.”

Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • Headstart, a special program for preschool aged children from low-income communities that provides access to early childhood education

  • The GATE Program (Gifted And Talented Education Program) national links and background information. Ryan participates in our local school district’s program.

  • Divergent Series by Veronica Roth

  • “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky

  • Erik Newton, The Together Show

  • Sports Illustrated Kid Reporter, a unique program Ryan has applied to which gives selected children ages 10 – 14 an opportunity to write and broadcast about sports

  • UCLA Bruin Woods where I was a counselor in college and where we all go to “camp” each summer as a family

Announcements:

 I hope this conversation sparked something that will inspire you to mark a milestone in your E.P.I.C. life. If you live in the bay area and want to participate in a group milestone hike I will be leading this spring or if you want to sign up for a coaching session so I can help you mark a milestone wherever you are, send an email to julie@mothersquest.com and put milestone in the subject heading.

The season is coming to a close and will start up again in May. Please make sure you’ve subscribed, signed up for email updates at mothersquest.com and joined the Facebook group so we can keep in touch and you’ll get notified when the next episode comes out.

Be Part of the Finale!!

I’ve extended the deadline for your submissions to be featured in the finale through April 6th and will release the finale later in April.

So, if you haven’t yet called in, and there is a moment from the season that made a difference for you, please go to mothersquest.com, look for the purple phone icon, and leave me a message with your name, favorite moment from the podcast and how that moment impacted you. I would love to include your voice in the season finale.

Let’s Stay in Touch

If you haven’t yet visited the website, I want to invite you to head over to mothersquest.com to explore some of the ways you can get more connected. At the site, you can sign up for our email list to have show notes delivered to your inbox, click the link to join the Facebook group and press record to leave a voice message for me.

Finally, I invite you to schedule a free 15 minute planning session where I can help you bring more intention to your life using the Live Your E.P.I.C. Life Planning and Reflection Sheets which you can download for FREE at www.mothersquest.com/reflectionsheets. Email me at julie@mothersquest.com to set a time.

A big THANK YOU to our “patrons” for helping to bring these conversations to myself and other mothers through financial and/or in-kind support:

  • Erik Newton and The Together Show Podcast who dedicated this week’s episode of the podcast
  • Claire Fry
  • Divya Silbermann
  • Rachel Winter
  • Caren and Debbie Lieberman
  • Cameron Miranda
  • Fran and David Lieberman
  • Debbie and Alan Goore
  • Jenise and Marianne of the Sustainable Living Podcast

 


Want to join the patrons above and help support more meaningful conversations such as these? Visit the Mother’s Quest Patreon Page to become a regular patron or visit this link www.mothersquest.com/be-a-supporter to make a one-time donation.

If you would like to “dedicate” an upcoming episode to a special mother in your life, email me at julie@mothersquest.com


Mother’s Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life.

Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, engaging mindfully with their children (E), passionately and purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), investing in themselves (I), and connecting to a strong support network (C).

Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/

Subscribe to the Podcast! We are available in these channels:

    

Episode #5: Live your E.P.I.C. Life to Help Your Children Thrive